THE ENTRY QUALIFICATIONS AND CHARACTER DEMANDS OF MARRIAGE

While the age-old practice where almost every man contemplating marriage makes finding his Miss Right his most important priority and almost every woman contemplating marriage makes finding her Mr. Right her most important priority is so entrenched across the globe that it can be described as a universal norm, there is big cause for concern about this practice especially in view of the unenviable fate of the many who have settled for partners who turned out to be anything but right and so found themselves in marriages that offered them more nightmares than the love they were promised! The overwhelming evidence is that the paradox in which the search for Miss Right and Mr. Right ends in the choice of partners who are anything but right is largely-attributable to the failure to recognize the reality that the fact that marriage is the most important and sensitive human relationship that has the most far-reaching lifetime and generational consequences makes it a trans-generational leadership endeavor in which possession of critical leadership skills and disciplines is the mandatory entry qualification! The immediate danger of many remaining oblivious of the leadership orientation and demands of marriage is that sensitive relationship decisions that should be taken with the sobriety and thoughtfulness that reflect the clear appreciation of their life-impacting and life-altering implications are mostly taken on the basis of extremely self-centered and short-sighted considerations. There can be no denying the fact that marriage is a call to trans-generational leadership! Therefore, whoever desires marriage must be prepared to lead. Thus, marriage can be re-defined as a partnership between two leaders who have agreed to share their lives and resources and fully support each other as well as nurture their next generation on the fundamental basis of shared leadership! The inability to lead is the biggest threat to marriage! This book represents a major paradigm shift in which the new focus on the leadership imperatives of marriage makes the identification and satisfaction of the entry qualifications and character demands of marriage far more compelling priorities than the self-centered and short-sighted search for Miss Right and Mr. Right.